YOU THROWS LIKE A BOY Biology vs. Identity – Protecting “Girl” Athletes vs “All” Athletes

By D.M. Livingston – October 31, 2025


When Congresswoman Jahana Hayes signed a 2020 letter defending transgender inclusion in school sports, few could have imagined the political weight that one paragraph would carry five years later.

The letter — joined by more than two dozen House Democrats — argued that Title IX protects all women, “no matter their sex at birth,” a phrase now echoing through Connecticut’s political circles as Hayes prepares to defend her seat in 2026.

Back then, Hayes and her colleagues were responding to a Department of Education ruling that said Connecticut’s high school athletic association violated Title IX by allowing transgender girls to compete in girls’ sports. The issue, rooted in biology and identity, has since evolved into one of the most polarizing debates in American politics — and now, a potential defining issue in the 5th District race.


The Letter That Lingers

Hayes’s June 2020 letter was signed alongside fellow Connecticut lawmakers and national allies, rejecting the Trump-era interpretation of Title IX that separated athletes strictly by biological sex. To Hayes, it was about inclusion and fairness — a belief that discrimination in any form runs counter to the spirit of Title IX.

To critics, it was a line-crossing moment — one that, in their view, ignored biological realities and the physical advantages of male puberty in sports competition.

Now, as Democrats face internal divides over gender and sports, and Republicans sense opportunity in the suburbs, that old letter has resurfaced. Opponents are already using it as shorthand for what they call “Washington woke politics.”


Biology vs. Identity: The New Battleground

The question isn’t just scientific — it’s emotional.
In gyms, classrooms, and family kitchens, people are wrestling with what it means to be fair in a world that’s also trying to be kind.

  • Biology says: Testosterone and muscle mass matter.
  • Identity says: Who I am inside matters more than what’s on my birth certificate.

Between those poles lies a conversation that’s been hijacked by extremists on both sides — one reducing it to “protecting girls,” the other to “attacking trans kids.” But in truth, most people are still figuring out how both realities can coexist.


Waterbury Roots, National Ripples

In Waterbury, where Hayes built her reputation as Teacher of the Year and a voice for working families, the debate hits differently. The city’s pride in sports, its tough-love culture, and its mix of old-school tradition and new-generation diversity make it the perfect microcosm of the national argument.

Parents here remember yelling “You throw like a girl!” as an insult.
Today, the phrase flips — “You throw like a boy” becomes a question about identity itself.

What does it mean to compete as a woman in 2025? Who decides?
And what does fairness look like in a time when science and selfhood are both evolving?


Politics in the Post-Title IX Era

With her 2026 reelection on the horizon, Hayes faces a more complex electorate. She remains popular among educators, progressives, and union households — but many voters in towns like Naugatuck, Newtown, and Southbury have shifted right on cultural issues, even as they stay moderate on economics.

Rivals sense vulnerability. A handful of challengers — both Democratic and Republican — are expected to test whether “biology vs. identity” becomes the next flashpoint in Connecticut politics.

Hayes, who built her brand on empathy and education, may soon find herself at the center of a national conversation she didn’t start — one that now demands clarity.


The Conversation We Need

Whether one believes Hayes was right or wrong in 2020, the bigger truth is that America still hasn’t figured this out.

The science is debated. The policies shift. The feelings are raw.
But in a democracy, silence is the only real threat.

If we can’t discuss biology and identity without hate — if we can’t hold two truths at once — then we’ve lost the spirit of what Title IX and democracy were meant to protect in the first place: a fair shot for everyone.